From the Energy of Advice to Heart Sharing

A Vibrational Transition to Authentic Presence

by Sylvie Olivier

The Advice: A Form of Disguised Control

In everyday life, many people believe they are offering support when they give advice. However, when we look closely at the vibration of this word, we detect a subtle undertone of control, of directing the other person toward what we think is right. Under its benevolent guise, advice often contains an intention to rectify, guide, or even correct. It suggests that the other person does not know, needs to adjust, or has not yet understood.

Advice is not neutral. It is often based on a mental attitude that assumes: “I know something you don’t, so I’m going to show you the way.” Thus, without even realizing it, we leave the space of the heart to impose a vision, a rhythm, or a perspective. Advice can therefore become a subtle tool of power, even if it is offered gently.

The Trap of Vibrational Superiority

When one being believes themselves to be more advanced, more conscious, or more enlightened than another, they are tempted to guide the other’s steps. But this attitude, even if spiritually justified, creates an energetic hierarchy. It places one above the other, often generating silent discomfort, tension in the relationship, or unspoken distance.

By imposing a point of view—even subtly—we invalidate the other person’s current experience. We forget that each being is following a sacred path that is unique and perfect just as it is. The other person does not need our knowledge, but our presence.

Sharing: Free and Fluid Energy

In contrast, sharing arises from a space of openness. It does not seek to convince, but simply to emanate a vibration, an experience, a lived moment. Sharing does not rush to fill a void: it waits to be invited.

When we share without attachment, we honor the other person’s freedom to receive or not. We do not force change; we simply create fertile ground where consciousness can blossom naturally. Sharing is free, bright, and transparent. It does not seek to influence. It gives without expectation.

A Posture of Active Neutrality

Making peace with the urge to guide others means recognizing that this urge often stems from a desire to do good… but is colored by old memories of control, fear, or lack of confidence in the natural rhythm of life.

Adopting a posture of active neutrality means trusting in the innate heart’s wisdom of every being. It means refraining from intervening without being asked. It means replacing automatic advice with active listening and inner availability. It requires presence, patience, openness… and a lot of love.

Listening as a Sacred Act of Presence

When we choose to stop responding automatically and instead listen fully, a vibrational shift occurs. We move from the mind that knows to the heart that feels. Listening then becomes a sacred space where the other person can express themselves without being redirected, compared, or judged.

In this space, nothing needs to be fixed, everything is to be honored. Regeneration happens naturally, effortlessly. Often, it is in this vibrant silence that the other person finds their own answer, because they are no longer held back or colored by our need to guide them.

Let Invitations Emerge Naturally

When someone wants to receive something, they will ask for it. The energy of the invitation is clear and authentic. At that moment, if an experience resonates with us, we can offer it with respect and clarity, in a spirit of giving—not correction.

This sharing will then have a completely different effect: it will be welcomed as an echo of the heart, not as an attempt at adjustment. It will contribute to harmonious cocreation, not to a veiled takeover.

Transmuting the momentum of advising into Sacred Presence

5. Remain in this state for a few moments. If words emerge, observe inwardly: are they guided by your heart or your mind?

You can return to this practice whenever you feel the urge to share a direction. It allows you to settle into the sacred space of the heart, where vibrations often speak louder than words.

Conclusion: Becoming a Space of Embrace instead of a Point of Direction

The transition from advice to sharing is an act of relational Care, where everyone inhabits their own space. It does not mean remaining silent forever, but learning to vibrate peacefully in silence until a shared impulse is requested.

Choosing this stance means ceasing to act for the other and beginning to BE with the other.

It means honoring the fact that everyone already has their own inner compass and that the vibration of our presence is often much more regenerating than a word spoken too quickly.

In Quality of Presence,
Sylvie xxx